125: Why You’re Afraid of Change
Change is the WORST. Or at least that’s what I used to tell myself – for like 30 years.
After becoming a mom I spent a full year feeling completely run over by all the change and unpredictability of my new mommy life. I kept wait for everything to “go back to normal.”
As you can guess – that never happened.
I had to resolve myself to the constant change that is motherhood.
As someone who thrives on routine and predictability, that was a tough pill to swallow. But then I looked at some of ways I had embraced change in other areas of my life over the last 10 years and I was able to slooooooowly start embracing motherhood and change in a new and more positive light.
Before I tell you how to get over your fear of change, let me help you understand why you’re afraid of change:
- The known is always more comfortable than the unknown
- We live in a fear based culture – so we’re programmed to be afraid of what we do not yet know
- We like consistency, predictability and control
- We’re scared of failure, mistakes, and of wasting our time and energy
And now – the good stuff – how to get over your fear of change:
- Recognize that you are already in constant flux and transition
- Consider change an opportunity for a “software upgrade”
- Know there will be moments of panic and doubt and possibly a sense of complete failure and/or regret
- Know that practicing and embracing change makes it feel less burdensome
- Understand that the best way to conquer fear and anxiety is to prove to yourself you CAN do the things you are afraid of
- change is not bad – it’s just different
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